If you have found yourself in a slump and have gotten to the point where you realize that your life is not how you want it to be and you have to change, then change. It is not an easy thing to do, but if you do not like the way you are, then figure out how you want to be and work towards that. It is a hard thing, but it is worth it. There are steps to take to achieve what you want out of life.
What is it about yourself that you do not like? Affirm your "flaws", and write them down and work towards improving yourself. Also, don't worry about "putting yourself down." Be careful not to listen to other people who try to tell you, "You're putting yourself down." These "self-esteem" nuts do not necessarily understand. The thing with self-esteem is that sometimes it is nothing more than a sham. Self-esteem is a nice proposal, but if the whole point of self-esteem is to try to fool and lie to yourself into thinking you're something that you are not, then self-esteem is a very bad thing to have. A man shall not think more highly of himself than he ought.
Self-improvement and personal growth calls for brutal honesty. If you are fat, you must see yourself as fat. If you are anorexic, you must see yourself as anorexic. (Eat some food you skeleton) There is a healthy medium that must be found.
Write down the goals that you want to achieve. Break them down and set times for them. The only way to get somewhere is to take the journey. Don't try to make the whole trip in one time. You have to learn how to walk.
You must always progress towards your goals. It will help you feel better about yourself and any insecurity you have will be practically overshadowed by the sense of achievement you have due to the progress you have made.
You will always have some growing to do and some improvements to make to your life. There is no point where you should get complacent. If you do get complacent (which is ok, everyone does), you will likely regress. It is okay to rest and reward yourself. Then you must get back on track.
When you have reached your goals, it is good to pass it on to someone else in your position. However, that can be really tricky because you would have to remember how you were back then. Being down and having the experience of a failure can make one's mind like a wild animal. The best thing you could do for others is to encourage them. At the same time, you have to stay out of the way. People who are down and out need the time and the space to figure out who they are. It is not good for you to try to forge on them your idea of who they are. They have their own life and you must live yours. However, if you want to be there, be there to support them.
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